How can a “NOT TO DO” list improve your life

A while ago, one of my boys asked me, “Why do adults drink coffee?” It was an excellent question because I have long wondered the same thing as a child.

As a child or teenager, I wasn’t curious about drinking coffee, but it has become a habit since college. This habit lasted a long time until I encountered an interesting situation a few years ago when I learned a lot about addiction.

In my case, I didn’t consider coffee drinking an addiction, however, I was in a position where I drank coffee every day. The coffee was hot, black, strong, and without sugar or milk. I remember drinking water before so the taste would linger as long as possible.

I was getting an energy boost in the short term and felt like I was in turbo mode. The coffee magically pushed all the tiredness aside, and I could immediately get on with my tasks.

I didn’t like that I rarely had that vitality without that it. I began to wonder: would this be my life until the end? Why do I really need it? But the question that intrigued me was if I could get the same feeling elsewhere.

I stayed that way and kept thinking about what I was missing, and it occurred to me, why don’t kids need coffee?

What do kids do when they’re tired?

First of all, they rest, relax or sleep.

What do adults do when they are tired?

They drink coffee, take supplements, energy drinks, or other substances.

In other words, they do what they’re used to in a world of credit: take energy on debt.

As a coach, I’ve had clients with this symptom of lack of energy, and many of them had constant prioritization issues. They were competent people but stuck emotionally and didn’t know how to differentiate between the essential things in their lives.

After helping them identify their actual needs and explaining that we pay for everything with our time and energy, many things became clear, and all the pressure disappeared. Ultimately, they all had more power at the end of the day.

Few know that fatigue can also come from the mind when there is no strategy. The good thing is that as a coach, I have offered many solutions, and I will share two of them:

1. At the beginning of the day, list the things you intend to do during the day. And then start cutting! Yes, cut tasks! Actually, make a NOT TO DO list! Cut the activities that are not important! Cut the actions that can be put off and focus only on the essential things.

To understand what is important or not, just ask yourself these questions:

  • What happens if I resolve this situation?
  • Does this activity I’m doing right now help me achieve a goal, or is it for relaxation?

2. The second option is different.

How often do you drink coffee? Could you think about giving it up for a month? Would you consider resting and sleeping instead of drinking coffee?

Don’t believe me, try it!

I hope you find it helpful, and with these two simple methods, you will increase your energy!

I salute you,


Who once was also exhausted, running most of the time without a plan