Can you keep a promise?

A few days ago, one of my friends shared this famous quote from Charles Kingsley (12 June 1819 – 23 January 1875), a renowned University professor and priest of the Church of England.

“Make it a rule and pray to God to help you keep it … never, if possible, to lie down at night without being able to say, I have made one human being at least a little wiser, a little happier, or a little better this day.”

It is a clear statement, and I liked it the first time I read it. Of course, I would like to add something.

May the first person who benefits from this treatment be yourself. You should be the person to whom this rule first applies.

I remember many times when I put other people or tasks first and left my own needs at the end. After some time, I noticed that I had no energy left, and the people around me didn’t even care for me. About respect? I almost forgot what that word was!

Of course! I was so tired and lonely! If I didn’t take care of myself, why should others?

The planner and fixer in me appeared, started to think more in that direction, and made a list of things I could do to improve my life.

I split my life into a few sectors and thought for each of them what can I improve:

Emotional: I learned how to handle stress and educated myself on emotional intelligence to understand compassion and forgiveness.

Social: I started working on my communication skills and setting healthy boundaries. I also looked for people with similar problems and just asked for help.

Spiritual: I started to spend more time alone, meditate, started going more often in nature, and at the end of the day, I filled out the things I was grateful for in a diary.

Physical: I did my best to sleep for 8 hours each night, started to exercise a bit, removed junk food and processed sugar from my system, and rested when my body asked for it.

Personal: I found some new hobbies, from which many of you already know that mountaineering has a big part. Kung-Fu or dancing was also introduced to my weekly rituals.

Financial: I paid more attention to the money I spent and started to ask myself before each purchase: Do I need that? Surprisingly, 50% of the things were just emotional needs.

Work: I started working with time management methods and did my best to create a positive workspace for my colleagues and me.

Looking back, I am surprised at how much time has passed since my journey began in 2015.

If it happens to feel similar, try some of the methods I suggested, and I guarantee that many positive results will follow. Do it at your own pace, and be confident you will gain more energy, friends, money, and time.

Don’t believe me! Just go and test them!

You can always write or call in case you need support to build a proper strategy to be sure that you achieve the desired results. Just give me a sign.

And, as Charles Kingsley said, be sure that the first person that is a bit wiser, happier, or better at the end of the day is yourself.